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No More Freaking Damsel In Distress!

Updated: Oct 26, 2023

Ladies, let's talk! I can't seem to get this out of my head cause too many of yall keep falling for the okie doke!! This one's about those dudes who swoop in like a knight in shining armor, only to turn into the big bad wolf once they've got you all geeked. Yeah, you know the type: they build you up, conquer your heart, and then start treating you like yesterday's leftovers because they've got more baggage than a cross-country flight. Now, before we dive into this, let's get one thing straight: this isn't about man-bashing. There are plenty of good guys out there who've mastered the art of being decent human beings. This is about those select few who've turned playing head games into their personal hobby because they can't face their own demons. These guys are like professional sandcastle builders. They spot you on the beach of life, start building you up, grain by grain, until they've got this majestic sandcastle - that's you, by the way, all shiny and new. Then, once they've conquered the castle, they start kicking it down because they've suddenly realize that they don't even like sand. Newsflash, the only type of women that accept them is 'sand' cause ain't nobody else dealing with their mess.

Here's the kicker, though: it's not about you. It's about them and their own insecurities and demons that they haven't learned how to deal with. They're like toddlers throwing a tantrum because they don't know how to express what they're feeling. But you, my dear, are not a punching bag for someone else's emotional immaturity. So, what's a chick to do when faced with these emotionally stunted sand-kickers? Well, for starters, it's time to work on that self-esteem of yours. I'm talking high-quality, top-shelf self-love here. The kind that makes you realize you're worth more than being someone's emotional plaything. The kind that sends out a vibe so strong, it acts like a douchebag repellent. Call me, I will help get you on track. Maybe not, some of yall love being 'sand' but are always crying, "he dogged me too." This isn't going to be easy, of course. Working on your self-esteem is like trying to get in shape: it requires regular exercise, a healthy diet of positivity, and cutting out the junk - in this case, the emotional junk food that these guys offer. Stop playing the victim to these men. You're not a damsel in distress waiting for a knight to save you. You're a queen who can build her own damn castle. And if a man wants to be part of your kingdom, he better come prepared to deal with his own demons instead of unleashing them on you.

Remember, ladies: you teach people how to treat you. So, teach them that you're not a sandcastle to be kicked down at their whim. You're a fortress, strong and resilient. And anyone who can't handle that? Well, they can go play in someone else's sandbox. At the end of the day, we all deserve to be with someone who respects us, cherishes us, and treats us with kindness. So let's stop settling for less, and start demanding more. After all, a queen doesn't let her crown slip, and neither should you.

Until Next Time!!!

Peace, Love & Kisses,

LaTonya MeChelle

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