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Don’t Let My Single Vibe Fool You, I Ain’t Trying To Stay Here - Laci #singlespotlight

San Antonio Texas

Q: LaTonya MeChelle: "Let's talk about your dating experience! Have you encountered any smooth-talking scam artists or undercover Casanovas in your dating adventures? Spill the tea, honey!"

Yes, unfortunately, I have come across some of those in the past. One guy claimed to be a famous NBA player and claimed he was interested in dating me, but it just turned out to be a scammer. And about 12 years ago, I met this guy who was also in the military and I was warned not to date his kind but I went with what he showed me which was a smooth-talking gentleman who made it seem like I was the only one in his life and he made all of these promises but never fulfilled them.


Q: LaTonya MeChelle: "Sweetheart, we all know dating apps are the thing these days.  Share your experiences with us – the good, the bad, and the downright ridiculous!"

I haven't had too many experiences when it comes to dating apps, but I have heard some crazy stories. I've mainly only used social media platforms as a way to meet and connect with guys. I started using Myspace back in the day to now using Facebook or Instagram. I will say that the bad part is that you have to be careful and verify who it is you are talking to. People have gotten creative with creating fake profiles nowadays. The good part is that you may come across someone genuine, authentic, and has pure intentions. And I have met some cool guys through social media who have turned out to be who they say they are. I have met some guys who are genuinely interested in getting to know me then I have met some guys who appear to be fraud and only one or two things out of you.


Q: LaTonya MeChelle: "Alright, queen, let's talk about long-distance relationships. Do you believe in the power of love conquering miles, or do you think it's a recipe for heartache? Give us your take on this topic!"

I think if both parties are willing to put in the work and communicate a long-distance relationship could work. In my past relationships, I have had quite a few long-distance relationships. It was mainly due to the military but as long as the communication was there, we were able to make it work for as long as it did. My first long-distance relationship happened when I joined the military. I had been dating this guy for about 4 years and we had talked about getting married. I joined the Air Force and then he later joined the Army. Unfortunately, he ended up getting stationed in Italy, and things started falling apart shortly after that. Even with communication, there can still be infidelity which there was on his part. At the end of the day, it depends on if you are willing to put in the effort and if you have a solid foundation where it can withstand the distance.


Q: LaTonya MeChelle: "What's your ideal mate like? Describe the qualities and characteristics that make your heart skip a beat. Paint us a picture of the partner who would complement your fabulous self!"

My ideal mate is someone who is authentic and genuine and has pure intentions. I love someone who takes pride in their appearance, is goal-driven, and makes me feel safe physically as well as emotionally. Integrity, confidence, and humor are some characteristics that I look for too.  I love someone who isn’t afraid to express himself and is a gentleman. My ideal mate is someone I can learn from and vice versa and isn't afraid to try new things with me. I love someone who is family-oriented and knows how to have a good time. I am a foodie and love some R&B music so if that person loves that too, that would be a plus. Lastly, someone who is compassionate and humble can make my heart skip a beat as well.


Q: LaTonya MeChelle: "What does your dream relationship look like? Are you all about fiery passion or more of a slow-burn kind of lady? Share your vision with us, we're all ears!"

My dream relationship looks like two people who aren't perfect but perfect for each other. I want to be able to talk about whatever I am going through and vice versa. I would want us to be each other’s safe place and it should feel like home. I want my dream relationship to be where if we go through something, we are willing to sit down and work through it not just be ready to throw in the towel. I would say that I am a little of both when it comes to that fiery passion and slow burn. I need to feel that spark and that connection in more ways than one to see if it’s even going to last. I am ok with the slow burn as long as we are both willing to fight for what we want and compromise.


Q:  LaTonya MeChelle: "In a world full of swiping left and right, what do you think is the biggest challenge in finding authentic connections these days? Share your insights on the modern dating landscape!"

I think the biggest challenge with finding authentic connections is people being afraid to be themselves and vulnerable while being afraid that people will not accept them for who they are or where they are. Also, I think sometimes we allow what we see on social media to impact what we should look for in a person. There have been movies that "give" advice on relationships or what we should look for and don't give you the real deal. A lot of the time if you are on a dating app or social media, you don’t know 100% if you are talking to the person that they claim to be, but it’s just a risk you have to be willing to take.


Q: LaTonya MeChelle: "Describe the ultimate date night that would sweep you off your feet. Are you a wine-and-dine kind of lady, or do you prefer something more adventurous? We want to hear all the deets, darling!"

When it comes to my ultimate date night, I could go for some good food and some live music. I would love anything that allows me and the guy to get to know each other a little better but also have some fun. I am down for some adventure or spontaneous type of date as well. I would prefer for the night to naturally unfold without any pressure. Anything from going to a concert, a comedy show, or just taking a walk would make me happy.


Q: LaTonya MeChelle: "Have you ever had a dating horror story that left you questioning humanity? Share with us your craziest dating escapade – we're here for the drama!"

Hmm...I do have a few dating horror stories. Besides being "hat fished", and the typical cheating that happens, I do have a crazy horror story. One I remember is when I started dating a guy who had been trying to get with me for a while. He seemed to be such a gentleman when I met him and talked about how he wanted to give me the world and how much he loved me (granted we had just started talking on a personal level).I gave him a chance and it turned out he was a bit needy as well as controlling. He would go from 0 to 100 and he had these weird requests he would ask of me, and I just saw all kinds of warning flags. After doing some research and finding things that did not quite add up, I decided it was time for me to let him go.


Q: LaTonya MeChelle: "Let's talk deal-breakers, honey. What are some non-negotiables for you when it comes to relationships? Is there anything that would make you hit the eject button faster than you can say 'boy, bye'?"

So, my deal-breakers are simple. I do not do liars, anyone who is lazy, or who does not have goals. If you have bad hygiene, then that is also a no-go for me.  If I can’t trust you or if there isn’t any mutual respect, then it’s not going to work either.  Some of more of my non-negotiables are drama, disloyalty, and if you are always taking from a person. If you are also insecure or jealous, that won't either.


Q: LaTonya MeChelle: "Last but not least, darling – what advice would you give to other single ladies navigating the unpredictable waters of dating? Inspire us with your wisdom and let's spread the love together!"

I would say hang in there and the right person will cross your path when it’s the right time. A lot of the time, when we aren't looking, that is when the magic happens. Dating is risky but if you are willing to put yourself out there, then you are halfway there. Sometimes we wonder if we should put ourselves out there or not, but if you know there is some work you have to do on your part, then focus on you first. The person that is meant for you isn’t going anywhere. I promise you that!


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